“Paint done” is a concept from Brené Brown’s book, Dare to Lead. I read it last year with my day job coworkers and while I go back and forth on various concepts in the book, I really liked this one not just for how it fits in with paying work, but for how useful it
It’s apparently my week to remove myself from untenable situations and inform people that I’m doing so and why. Saying “no” and saying “I’m done” is horrendously difficult, especially, I think, for women but also or additionally for people of any gender with certain cultural and familial baggage. Putting up with a situation or ghosting
Getting started is tough. Whether it’s trying to get going for the day or begin a big new project or lifestyle change, step one, day one – that’s the hardest part. We often know exactly what we need to do. We have lists and reminders and probably healthy doses of guilt and shame. If you’re
A conversation I’ve been having a lot lately revolves around context – what it means, and why it’s a vital piece to solving the puzzle of life. Without it, I’ve been arguing, it’s very difficult to get good advice and to make sound decisions, no matter if we want to optimize ways of being safe
My motorcycle journey continues as I’ve finally finished acquiring all of my basic safety gear. I have spent hours researching armor and agonizing over materials choices. Spare time has meant visiting Revzilla to pick brains and try on clothes, not to mention scouring websites for reviews and “how to ride” information. With how new I
“It works for me!” We hear that so often when it comes to all areas in life, but I see it especially in self-defense and gun-oriented groups. Someone recommends a product or technique, and backs it up by saying it’s something that works for them, or maybe someone they know, so it must be viable.
The subject of boundaries in the workplace has been coming up for me quite a bit recently, especially with all of us a year into pandemic and all of the changes that’s made to every workplace. Whether you’re working the front lines of retail or service, the battlegrounds of health care or education, or a
Spring is coming and I’m looking at trying out a new hobby because…well, because reasons. Because I’ve never ridden a motorcycle before and because I’m at a place in my life where I have the resources to learn. It’s a risky venture for sure, but as I go through the steps of taking it on,
This weekend, I ran across an interesting editorial written for Modern Warn Institute by Captain Kristen Griest, the US Army’s first woman infantry officer. In it, she argues for adoption of a physical fitness standard for combat arms units that does not distinguish based on the soldier’s gender. I don’t want to argue about the
How many of you drive on a regular or semi-regular basis? Have your own car or a car that you share responsibility for? Take road trips, even in a borrowed or rented car? That probably covers most of you at some time or another in your life. I love getting on open highways or winding
