To wrap up our series, Lee of The Obscene Sailor and I talk about the next step of many relationships: when they’re over. It’s a tough topic fraught with many potential stumbling blocks, but we all know that it happens. More often than we’d like, they’re also filled with potential dangers to heart and body, …
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So ah…how’s that weather by you? It seems to have been a tough winter week across the United States, with unusual storms bringing snow and ice to just about everywhere. As a result, power has been interrupted for millions of people and roads have become difficult or impossible to pass. And we’re still in the …
One year ago today, On Her Own officially launched. Thank you for being part of the journey and the growth. I’ve really enjoyed teaching you some of what I know, and learning some of what you know, and look forward to continuing. Safety and security is a holistic problem that encompasses a person’s entire life, …
Hope everyone had the Valentine’s Day weekend they hoped for, whatever that means for them. In this next conversation with Lee of The Obscene Sailor, we talk about maintaining settled relationships, and maintaining your self-identity as part of them. Lee fixes his mic, and makes me speechless, as we talk about the skills we can …
Valentine’s Day is this weekend. I’m sure several of you didn’t need or want that reminder. It’s a complicated, commercialized holiday with a lot of societal expectations built up around it. For those of you who aren’t too excited about it, I see you and I have some space for you. Maybe you’re single, and …
Much has been written and discussed about the case of a couple killed by their neighbor over a dispute apparently related to snow shoveling, with one of the more recent storms to hit northeastern Pennsylvania. If you’ve managed to miss hearing about it, the people involved reportedly had a history of not getting along, culminating …
This week, Lee from The Obscene Sailor and I talk about getting serious. Not me and him, that is, but about how we shift from the life of first dates to an actual relationship. What does it mean to become a committed couple? What are the mechanics of becoming partners? How do you introduce your …
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What does it mean to be safe? It’s a question I think about a lot, especially as I learn, research, and put together material for On Her Own. Most of the self-defense world has a very narrow focus on the problems of strangers physically injuring or killing you. Those threats are scary, and it’s important …
In a few weeks, I’m going to make my way down to Northern Virginia and assist the inestimable Cecil Burch of Immediate Action Combatives with his Immediate Action Jiu Jitsu and Pugilism classes. The names sound a little scary, but they’re excellent training for all sorts of people who are concerned about defending themselves when …
Much of On Her Own is about personal safety in the context of our normal, ordinary lives, but I’m not the only voice in this community. One of the others is Lee of The Obscene Sailor, who looks at these issues from a more male perspective. We join forces this month to talk about safety …
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